{"id":316133,"date":"2022-04-14T12:26:03","date_gmt":"2022-04-14T11:26:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/whimsicalwonderlandweddings.com\/?p=316133"},"modified":"2024-11-07T16:19:15","modified_gmt":"2024-11-07T16:19:15","slug":"who-wedding-speeches","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/who-wedding-speeches\/","title":{"rendered":"Who Does Wedding Speeches? &#038; In What Order? &#8211; Solved!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Wedding speeches<\/strong>, who gives them, when to do them and in what <strong>order<\/strong>?<\/p>\n<p>Well, I&#8217;m here to give you the lowdown, as well as share some alternative and unconventional options to ensure your day is unique to you as well as with the times.<\/p>\n<p>Then I will share my top <strong>wedding speech tips<\/strong> and advice on writing the perfect wedding speech.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316143\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Who Order Kristian Leven Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Kristian-Leven-Photography-48-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/kristianlevenphotography.co.uk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Kristian Leven<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/london-warehouse-wedding\/\">London Warehouse Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Who does wedding speeches and in what order?<\/h2>\n<h3>Traditional Speech Givers &amp; Order<\/h3>\n<p>Traditionally, and I say this tentatively as we live in the 21st century, after all, the following wedding party members <strong>give speeches in the following order<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Father of the Bride<\/li>\n<li>Groom<\/li>\n<li>Best Man<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>But and this is a big but, there are no rules when it comes to who makes a wedding speech or in which order.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s also worth remembering that not everyone has a father or father figure in their life, not all weddings have grooms or best men. So these roles may not fit with your day.<\/p>\n<p>But that&#8217;s absolutely fine, it&#8217;s your day so it should be celebrated in your own unique style.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316145\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Who Order Bowl Of Corks\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Bowl-Of-Corks-44-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/bowlofcorks.co.uk\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Bowl Of Corks<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/bridal-barn-wedding\/\">Bridal Barn Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>Modern Speech Givers &amp; Order<\/h3>\n<p>Egalitarian weddings bucking patriarchal traditions, will also hopefully include brides and bridesmaids in speeches too.<\/p>\n<p>These people can make a wedding speech too:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Bride<\/li>\n<li>Bridesmaids<\/li>\n<li>Maid of Honour<\/li>\n<li>Father of Groom<\/li>\n<li>Mother of Bride<\/li>\n<li>Mother of Groom<\/li>\n<li>Step-Parent\/Guardian<\/li>\n<li>Friend<\/li>\n<li>Relative<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316141\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Who Order Stephanie Butt Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Stephanie-Butt-Photography-53-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.stephaniebutt.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Stephanie Butt<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/coton-house-farm-wedding\/\">Coton House Farm Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Wedding Speech FAQ Solved<\/h2>\n<h3>What if someone declines to make a speech at my wedding?<\/h3>\n<p>If someone doesn&#8217;t want to make a wedding speech or feels uncomfortable doing so, don&#8217;t force them to make one. Let them enjoy your day and take away that speech stress.<\/p>\n<p>You could well find something else special on the day to be involved, or suggest they record a speech beforehand to play on video or a slideshow if they have nerves.<\/p>\n<h3>What do I do if someone asks to do a wedding speech uninvited?<\/h3>\n<p>You may have a loved one who is gagging to get up and say a few words, if you&#8217;re happy for them to do so, let them. Don&#8217;t sweat about tradition and shake things up a little.<\/p>\n<p>Just be sure to think about your wedding timeline and your guests&#8217; enjoyment, you won&#8217;t want speeches that last for hours when a party is waiting to begin.<\/p>\n<p>If you need to decline their speech offer, don&#8217;t feel bad. Simply respond kindly and honestly. For example:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Thank you for your kind offer, we&#8217;re keeping the speeches simple so we can get on with the party. But I&#8217;d love for you to be involved in another way, would you like to do [enter task here] at all?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316146\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Tips James Merrick Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-James-Merrick-Photography-45-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.jamesmerrick.co.uk\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> James Merrick Photography<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/cheswell-grange-wedding\/\">Cheswell Grange Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>How do I write a wedding speech?<\/h2>\n<p>When it comes to writing a speech, speak from a place of truth and heart. As a guide follow this order:<\/p>\n<h3>1. Introduce Yourself<\/h3>\n<p>A short and sweet hello, share your name and relationship with the newlyweds, or that you are the bride\/groom.<\/p>\n<p>You could mention how you met or how long you&#8217;ve been a part of each other&#8217;s lives. It&#8217;s fun to reference newly married titles and new names too. That usually gets a few whoops of excitement!<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316137\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Who Order Aurora Grey Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Aurora-Grey-Photography-57-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.auroragrey.co.uk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Aurora Grey Photography<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/norfolk-barn-wedding\/\">Norfolk Barn Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>2. Thank You&#8217;s<\/h3>\n<p>Thank guests&#8217; for coming along, and individually thank those that have helped with wedding planning and give out any gifts.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Share A Small Story\/Anecdote\/Memory<\/h3>\n<p>A lovely way to personalise your speech is to share a sweet anecdote or story that your guests may not know. Be cautious about sharing anything that may embarrass the couple or any guests.<\/p>\n<p>Family members, welcome your new family member(s) to the fold.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316150\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Who Order LyraMoth Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-LyraMoth-Photography-44-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/lyraandmoth.co.uk\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Lyra and Moth<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/abbey-house-gardens-wedding\/\">Abbey House Gardens Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>4. Jokes (or No Jokes)<\/h3>\n<p>Don&#8217;t force jokes into your wedding speech. Cheesy jokes may not come across well and you want to be authentic.<\/p>\n<p>If you are naturally a joker and it&#8217;s a part of your personality it may work well. But don&#8217;t feel like you have to make guests laugh with a special one-liner. Be natural.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316147\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Who Order Andrew Brannan Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"668\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Andrew-Brannan-Photography-44-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: Andrew Brannan Photography via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/british-nigerian-wedding\/\">British Nigerian Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>5. Share Something About The Day<\/h3>\n<p>You could mention how lovely the couple\/wedding party look or how wonderful a part of the day has been.<\/p>\n<h3>6. End With A Wedding Toast<\/h3>\n<p>To round up your wedding speech make a toast to your new husband\/wife or the happy couple and ask guests to raise their glasses.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316152\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Who Order Wyldbee\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-Wyldbee-58-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/wyldbee.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Wyldbee Photography<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/industrial-derbyshire-wedding\/\">Industrial Derbyshire Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>Other Wedding Speech Ideas<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Write\/perform a song<\/li>\n<li>Perform a dance routine<\/li>\n<li>Create a slideshow<\/li>\n<li>Bring props<\/li>\n<li>Share messages from those that can&#8217;t be there<\/li>\n<li>Pre-record a video speech<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316142\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Order Who Fiona Kelly Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"668\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Fiona-Kelly-Photography-41-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fionakellyphotography.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Fiona Kelly Photography<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/south-london-wedding\/\">South London Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Wedding Speech Writing Tips<\/h2>\n<h3>Cross Reference With Other Speech Givers or Team Up<\/h3>\n<p>You could team up to do a speech with another person, or think about cross-referencing your speech with other speech givers to ensure yours is unique.<\/p>\n<h3><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">How long should wedding speeches be?<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Don&#8217;t feel like you need to write an essay or speak for a long time. Concise but heartfelt words will mean more than a long waffle.<\/p>\n<p>Aim for a speech that lasts around 5 minutes but no more than 10 minutes. You want to keep guests engaged and enjoying what you&#8217;re saying.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316153\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Tips Emily Steve\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Tips-Emily-Steve-42-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.emilysteve.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> Emily &amp; Steve Photography<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/south-downs-barn-wedding\/\">South Downs Barn Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>What should you not say in a wedding speech?<\/h3>\n<p>Avoid talking about taboo subjects or any references or stories that may embarrass anyone in your wedding speech. A wedding is not the time for this, save these for appropriate occasions.<\/p>\n<p>Keep talk of party antics or exes away from a wedding speech or any crude jokes. Any chat about the couples&#8217; relationship woes or bets on their future is not a good approach.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t swear and keep the language as well as subject matter appropriate for all ages in attendance.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316148\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52.jpg\" alt=\"Jodie &amp;Wedding Speeches Order Who Faye Green Photo; Joe\" width=\"1000\" height=\"668\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Order-Who-Faye-Green-Photo-52-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fayegreen.co.uk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Faye Green Photo<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/church-hall-wedding\/\">Church Hall Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>Keeping Balanced &amp; Avoiding Speech Nerves<\/h3>\n<p><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">Don&#8217;t go overboard on alcohol before the speech. Look after yourself, stay hydrated, eat well and calm your nerves by doing these:<br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">Meditate<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">Take a short stroll\/get some fresh air<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">Talk to someone you trust<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">Drink water\/have water to hand<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">Listen to some calming music<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">Remind yourself, the people watching are rooting for you to do well<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">It doesn&#8217;t matter if you muddle your words, it&#8217;s what&#8217;s being said that counts, not how it&#8217;s delivered<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316154\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speech Write Jess Soper Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"668\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Write-Jess-Soper-Photography-42-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/jesssoperphotography.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Jess Soper Photography<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/red-brick-barn-wedding\/\">Red Brick Barn Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">Practice Makes Perfect<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Be sure to fully prepare your speech beforehand with plenty of time in advance. Write out the wedding speech by hand, create a printout or cue cards or read from a phone\/tablet.<\/p>\n<p>Practice in front of a trusted friend\/family member and ask for their honest feedback. Time how long the speech is and adjust where necessary.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-316138 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-John-Wellings31-720x1080.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Who Order John Wellings\" width=\"720\" height=\"1080\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-John-Wellings31-720x1080.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-John-Wellings31-300x450.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-John-Wellings31-150x225.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-John-Wellings31-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-John-Wellings31-604x906.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-John-Wellings31-60x90.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Who-Order-John-Wellings31.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 720px) 100vw, 720px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellingsweddings.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">John Wellings<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/woodhouse-barn-wedding\/\">Woodhouse Barn Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3><span data-v-5688524b=\"\">When Is the best time for wedding speeches? <\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Most weddings have speeches following the wedding meal. However, you can shake up your <a title=\"Wedding Day Timeline Template Examples &amp; Free Download Tool\" href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/wedding-timeline-templates-examples\/\">wedding timeline<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>You could have a speech at these times instead:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>After the ceremony<\/li>\n<li>At the drinks reception<\/li>\n<li>Before the meal begins<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Sometimes it works well to do wedding speeches earlier as the speech givers can get them out of the way so they can relax and enjoy their meal to the full.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316155\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speech Ideas Alice Cunliffe Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"668\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speech-Ideas-Alice-Cunliffe-Photography-42-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/alicecunliffephotography.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Alice Cunliffe Photography<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/happy-valley-wedding\/\">Happy Valley Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>Do you have to have wedding speeches?<\/h3>\n<p>No, you don&#8217;t have to have wedding speeches. There is no rule about wedding speeches, it&#8217;s your day, so you do as you please.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-316156\" src=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46.jpg\" alt=\"Wedding Speeches Leah Lombard Photography\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46-720x480.jpg 720w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46-604x403.jpg 604w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46-60x40.jpg 60w, https:\/\/whimsical-cdn.wedissimo.com\/2022\/04\/Wedding-Speeches-Leah-Lombardi-Photography-46-467x312.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/> Photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/leahlombardi.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Leah Lombardi<\/a> via <a href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/boho-preston-priory-barn-wedding\/\">Preston Priory Barn Wedding<\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"infoBox infoBox--tick theme--blue\"><p class=\"h2\"><\/p><\/p>\n<p>So there we have my ultimate guide to wedding speeches, w<strong>ho gives speeches<\/strong>, in what <strong>order wedding speeches<\/strong> happen and just how to write the perfect wedding speech. Hopefully, you're now fully clued up and ready to organise and write your wedding speeches!<\/p>\n<p><br\/><\/div>\n<h4>Further Reading<\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li><a title=\"What Is A Wedding Breakfast? Your Foodie Questions Answered\" href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/wedding-breakfast\/\">What Is A Wedding Breakfast?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a title=\"17 Wedding Napkin Folds To Inspire Your Unique Place Settings\" href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/wedding-napkin-folds\/\">Wedding Napkin Folds<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a title=\"What Are Wedding Favours? A Must-Have or Optional Item?\" href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/what-are-wedding-favours\/\">What Are Wedding Favours?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a title=\"Groom\u2019s Wedding Speech Template \u2013 Free Download To Fill In\" href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/groom-wedding-speech-template\/\">Groom\u2019s Wedding Speech Template<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a title=\"Best Man\u2019s Wedding Speech Template \u2013 Free Download To Fill In\" href=\"https:\/\/wedissimo.com\/blog\/best-mans-wedding-speech-template\/\">Best Man\u2019s Wedding Speech Template<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Unsure who should give a speech at your wedding? Dive in to find out who gives a speech and in which order. 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